I really need some advice, so whoever you are please take the time to help me out.I am living with my mother right now, she is helping support my daughter and I while I go back to work and school. I love her very much. However, we argue about what lies in the fridge and the pantry. She was thin her whole life, and was accustomed to eating whatever she wanted without gaining an ounce. Now she is 46, and is beginning to get a belly on her. She complained to me one day that she looked pregnant. She said she thinks she needs to exercise more. In actuality, my mother is on the move all the time. But she eats food that people who are typically obese eat. She eats out every single day, no matter whats in the fridge. About once a week she will eat at home. I'm talking a gallon of whole milk every two days, pasta, large amounts of bread and cheese, deep fried junk food, the list goes on and on. I have been overweight my whole life. Not to play the blame game, but looking back, both my mother and my father fed me crap in a can and just plain crap. I am not trying to dishonor my father or mother. I just need advice. I made many poor choices when I was a teenager. I got pregnant unmarried, and I became morbidly obese and miserable. It didn't work out with the father, and I was fat and alone with a child. I was introduced to methamphetamine, which seemed to take all my problems away at first. At 250 lbs on a 5 foot 2 frame, I could keep up at work and at home while shedding pounds like magic. I went from 250 to my current weight(147) over the course of 2 years, with periods of clean time. Meth began to ruin my life,and ultimately brought me to my knees. I looked up, and turned my life over to the Lord Jesus. My mother knows how miserable I was when I was obese. She knows how my self esteem declines when I become heavier. It is very hard to keep the weight off now that I am clean from meth. Not only that but I am on antidepressants that normally account for a 20 lb on average gain. I asked her when we got our food stamps to make me a list of the foods she would like me to buy for her. I told her that I must buy more healthy food for myself, including ground turkey, vegetables, almond flour, etc... She never made me a list. So I guessed what she would like. It wasn't good enough for her. She got very angry looking through the cabinets, shouting. "What is there to eat in this place?" Then a mutual friend of ours confessed to me that I was irritating my mother, and that she believed I was selfish for buying healthy food and not buying anything she likes. I was very upset and angry when I heard this. I had bought her hamburger, deli meat, rich dips with cheddar cheese chips, brownies,etc. She didn't even TOUCH them. They sat in the house, torturing me, calling out to me, tempting me. I ended up being the one eating these things after two weeks of her not touching them. After my binge, thats when I found out she was angry with me about the diet food. It makes me feel like she doesn't care about my health or that of my daughter at all. She thinks that when I feed my daughter healthy food, it is an insult to the way she parented me. Well, I used to feed my daughter nothing but chicken nuggets, french fries,tater tots, PB&J,spaghettios, mac n cheese...all because I didn't know any better. I'm not trying to insult her, but it is her own mind convicting her. What can I do to resolve this situation? I have thought about packing a big cooler with new ice every day, but our aparment is already too small for our things. I'm getting so desperate that I think about storing my food in my car for the winter! There has got to be a better way. Also, eating healthy is very expensive. No one can deny that. Its so hard to afford two different diets. There's just too many angles, what do I do??
The hardest thing I will ever do, may be the best thing I have ever done.
Starting weight: 146 lbs
Goal weight before 2012: 135 lbs
Ultimate Goal Weight: 125 lbs
We can do it! <3 Kendall