Do people treat you differently?

[onehotmama1125]

i do think people treat you different. boys i went to high school with that were my friends back then now flirt with me. I was about 200lbs when I was a sophmore in high school and got to about 190 my senior year. I did everything. I had 2 dance classes a day and gym , it is just my eating habits.

I also think that some people think that fat/ over weight people don't care. That all they want is food. When all of that have been over weight know that is not true. And they don't get the time to know you. Where as if you are a size 8 they will. Which is horrible. And i think when I was a size 24 I think i was like that toward skinner people though. I am jealous person, or was, and really didn't want to be around the little cute girls. Now that I am 14 I go to clubs and make friends all time. And even though I am the same bubbly girl i always been I just don't see them the same.

[omgyouresexy]

On the confidence issue:
Being an overweight guy, I've gotten a lot more female attention throughout college than I ever thought I would. This surprised me, so I talked to a couple female friends of mine, asking why this was the case. They all told me that I had a lot of confidence, that that was really attractive to a girl. Apparently, being an overweight guy didn't automatically preclude me from dating or getting female attention. Having confidence can go a long way I'm told.

Personally, I really connected with what the original poster was saying. Buying clothes is so pricey because I've only ever been able to find clothes my size (big and also tall) at Casual Male. I've always hated not being able to buy band shirts or funny shirts that reflect my personality. I'm also juuust barely able to buckle an airline seat belt and those seats are just not wide enough to sit comfortably. I'm really hoping that losing some of this extra weight I've been carrying around for years will make my life easier and more enjoyable. I really hope I can stick with this.

[onehotmama1125]

yeah confidence does have a big role in it too I have to agree

[chubbygirl]

Yes I think so. Well also I think people who are fit and healthy are happier and have more confidence and people are drawn to that positive energy. But I notice people would go out of their ways to do nice things to me now than before.

[beachmeup]

In response to your comment: "I need to get healthy for me, but I keep thinking maybe it would be rewarding to notice people treating me better."
This whole topic raises a lot of hot buttons for me. Like many SB'ers, most of my life I've yo-yo'd (have never been "thin" but have at times been "average" size). So, I have a lifetime of firsthand experience re: whether people treat fat people differently than not-fat folks. As I lost the 115# from 2002-2004, and went from a size 24 to a 10/12, you can bet your sweet patooty most people treated me differently: co-workers, strangers on street, shop people (that's a MAJOR one...and not just in clothing stores), waiters/waitresses, of COURSE men, my family!, the list goes on and on. And by different, I mean: Nicer, better, with more respect. Funny, isn't it, how so many people treat larger individulas as if they're invisible, especially the larger they are! And I have repeatedly experienced, as the weight melts off, how I mysteriously become visible to the same people...and in the case of strangers or near-strangers, confidence has/had nothing whatsoever to do with it...with some people I don't think it's even a "conscious" decision to ignore us...but with some, it absolutely is ("oh god, I don't want to serve/be seen talking to that FAT woman!").
Absolutely, over time, in my new body, with people who are around me a lot, and in my dealings with men, I DO exhibit more confidence...but you know what - a lot of that comes from the fact that I know that NOW they will SEE me, and HEAR me (unlike before) ... so it's a cycle.
So, my best answer to you: do NOT EVER think/feel it's "rewarding" to have people treat you better - you deserve to be treated well NOW! And absolutely, focus on the fact that you DO need to get healthy for YOU (and your child). Screw everybody else