Have You Got Nothing To Say?

[Sachinda]

Hi Anne!!
I revived my ooooolldddd journal - Amazing to see how much has (and mostly has not) changed since I started my journal over 5 (!!) years ago.

I meant to ask you (I think I saw on FB) about potty training - - I am having a TOUGH time with s on this, wondering how you're getting Carter to go and what problems you're having w. Tucker (please tell me I did not get their names backward here)

[lakegran72]

Those are two mighty handsome boys......

[anneg1116]

Thanks lakegran!

Sachinda - we are not having much luck with Tucker on the potty training thing. A big part of which has to do with him being our scaredy-cat. The kid is afraid of or hates sooooo many things. Especially noises. Like the flushing of a toilet. Therefore we are having a hard time with him being willing to go knowing that there has to be a flush. And I don't want him to always be shielded from the noise just so I can get him to go. He has to get used to the fact the noise goes with it. So we are slow going. Literally!

Carter, on the other hand, has no noise issues and wants to do what his brother does. So he's more than willing to sit on the potty and give it a try - and even goes once in a while! We joke he will be trained before his brother is.

[wileybosco]

Have you spoken to your pediatrician about the sound sensitivity? Doc Wiley

[anneg1116]

Boy this place is dusty. Cough, cough, sneeze.

[wileybosco]

You are making great changes. Again you inspire me. Let's keep it going Sistah!!!We can do this together again. Like Lucy and Ethel...

[WGirl]

Come bring a breath of fresh air to blow away the dust.

[dene]

I know alot of the "old timers" have shown up again on here and I must say that it is an encouragement to me. Just knowing that others have struggled and are now back tells me that I'm not the only one that has had a hard time of it. Sometimes I've wondered if everyone met their goals and are living happily ever after, and I'm the only one who can't seem to get it together. So thanks for posting again. I've always enjoyed keeping up with your news. I never started a journal, but I have visited other journals for a long time, so it's good to see you and Wiley and some of the others again.

[anneg1116]

I was living happily ever after, even after having baby #1. It was #2 that soon followed (they are 15 months apart) that did me in. My weight was up a bit (from my low of losing weight) when I got pregnant with #2 and I gained a lot with him. I initially lost some, but the craziness of 2 little ones coupled with a constantly traveling DH did me in. I needed quick & easy most of the time. And I needed sleep. Advance prep for salads and stuff was not something I had the time for, or the willingness to make time for. I barely had time to even make something, let alone actually spend 30+ minutes doing so. So I ate more & more crud. And I paid for it. My weight went back up to basically the weight I was at in 2005 when I started here. I managed to lose 2 here, 3 there, another 5 here, but then would gain 6. It wasn't pretty and I wasn't happy. I didn't eat as poorly as I used to pre-SBD, but it wasn't the wonderfully healthy eating style I had adopted before having my boys.

Over the last 2 years (the little guy is 3 next month) I did manage to shed about 20lbs from the highest I was at once again. But I still used to the excuse of crazy life & crazy kids to ignore getting back to being a healthier person. And I really struggled with this. From the time #2 was a few months old until a few weeks ago there wasn't a day that went by that I didn't think about how to make this happen and take that first step. Seriously - THERE WASN'T A DAY. These thoughts consumed me. I know how to be healthy. I know what unhealthy foods are. But I just couldn't find it in me to flip the switch to getting back to eating better and to stopping my poor choices.

But I hate being fat. I hate being the fat mom. I hate being the fat wife. I hate being the fat one in my group of friends. Such a daily internal struggle.

But for some reason, and I have no idea what inside of me finally snapped out of it - but I did it. Woke one morning, ate a great (P1) breakfast, and never looked back. Weight is going down, I feel better, clothes are already much looser - but most of all there's a happy place in my brain again that's been missing. I know I'm doing the right thing and there's a pride that goes with that. Not to mention the delight in seeing results and knowing my efforts are working.

And by no means have we or the 2 boys been eating a disastrously unhealthy diet where we live off junk food, fast food, and just plain old crud. But there are better choices to be had by all of us, and tweaking the kids' stuff & ours (kids just don't always eat what we do - the salmon & roasted brussels sprouts I had tonight was not appetizing to either one!) it only going to help us all, now & in the long run. And I am glad to be setting that example and changing things for the better for all of us.

Speaking of the 2 boys - #1 is now 4yrs 2 months, and #2 will be 3 one month from today.

[WGirl]

Wow! Look at those two. I remember when you came over to my thread to say come and look at the post saying you were expecting.

I don't have the excuse of two little cuties, but sometimes life makes it hard to eat right. This week, on Thursday I had argument in the court of appeals. That pretty much took my mind up for a couple of days. I ate at Arby's! Last night I I made a fritatta for dinner which just tasted yucky to me and I tossed it.

Do your little guys like things like veggies? It's harder to do this if the rest of the family won't eat generally the same.

[Beaching It]

Welcome back!! I know all about being a busy mom and can relate to what you wrote about above. I'm here to tell you it gets better. My kids are 9 & 7 now and I have a handle on it, get to the gym 3-4x a week and feel like I have my life back... It's good. Glad to see you back. There's lots of support here.
Lisa

[dene]

Your boys are GORGEOUS!!! I remember when you got pregnant with #1. Great story of coming around to the point of just getting serious about your eating. That is an encouragement to everyone, not just me.

[anneg1116]

Had a great weekend around here. Food is still right on track - and ate steel cut oats for breakfast all last week.

Scale is still moving right along - progress is a good thing!

DH and the younger one are the picky eaters in the family. The older one - Tucker - will eat anything, just like me. So he's no problem. It's the other 2 boys that are harder to feed! We manage OK, but there are days I wish the two of them would eat more of a variety of things!

THanks for saying hello everyone!

[wileybosco]

Boogedy Boo! I'm here!
Extending an arm to pull you back in. Food and grief go hand in hand. When I am sad I eat. When you are able come do this with me here come back. Sending love TrashyMama!!

[WGirl]

Saw this and checked to see that you lost your mom. So very sorry to hear that. My mom has been gone for 15 years and I still miss her every day.

General hug extended. You know where to find me should you need to chat.