Wiley's World

[wileybosco]

February 1st! WOW!!!!
Working food and exercise as always. Swim team duties are slowing down so I will have more time to take care of me.( In other words cook healthy dinners instead of sitting in hot swimming pools all over the county!!!)
Tonight I am subbing paddle tennis at 6 and then playing my scheduled game at 8. Teaching two undergrad classes this morn and then consulting/providing staff development on Co-teaching at a nearby district. (great pay and sharing my research-yehah!) Busy day and need to get food in. Feet firmly in the sand.

[jhderm]

Hi Wiley
Just checking in. I see you've been missing from the scene here. Hope it's not quicksand you are standing on!
Wishing you a great weekend, hope your week went well.
I looked back on your and some of the other "old timers'" jrnls (the P3 thread etc), and was enjoying the humor there. I sometimes find the board too technical and about food food food or ex ex exercise. A little sarcastic fun helps once in a while. Where are all those people? Only see Redrox being active.
Judi

[RedRox]

Yes it used to be a much more fun and lively forum. Unfortunately our sense of humor and overall directness and truth telling was not always appreciated here. (I still get comments about how rude I am sometimes!) So one of the comments in the longest running thread ever (it was deleted by an overzealous mod who is no longer here either.) on the nature of what constitutes "Support" just asked all the vets of that era to leave if they couldn't be as "nice" as the complainers of that era wanted them to be. So they did and wiley and I are the only ones who have remained. Great group of ladies and men, although pjams isn't active anywhere anymore. So yes the "life" kind of went out of the board at that time IMO, and it is a lot more technical and informational oriented now. So I just try to stick to the facts, and give the people what they want, but we both miss those good ole days I think. It's just a different vibe here now, but it's completely different sets of people too. Forums like people, grow and change over time too. I'm still in contact with many of them and brought closer together recently with the death of Laura and our collective sadness and thoughts of an amazing individual taken far too soon.

I often wonder if the groups that form now feel the same way about the forums as we did then when we had our "inner circle" and had a great time together here sharing our own life struggles and supporting each other along the way. It feels different to me, but maybe that is simply because my friends are no longer here and our time came and went here and it's their time here now.

[jhderm]

Well, that's too bad about that mod. WHO can ask anyone to leave a forum, unless abusive? Humor is just that, humor, and if they can't take a joke, well.... i would have advised to complainers to shape up and develop a life and a personality. But that's just me, although am just guessing that we must be alike in some ways, hence my appreciation of you from the get go.
The board is mostly very proper, although in my jrnl (jn on sb) I do instigate some fun at times, and there are a few who are game. Many are just polite and proper. It's OK, except the fun ones are kind of like family, and it expands the relationship from a very pointed topic to an open ended affair. So I was happy to find that thread with the P3's, I don't know how I happened onto Wiley, and it just went from there....
I am sure Laura would be happy to know that in a way she is surviving as a connection btw the ones who left the board. Being a physician, I especially feel how tragic it is for one to go so young. Unfortunately, fate doesn't work with us being good or bad, healthy or sick by being deserving, and often it's the best ones who go first (so I am looking forward to a long life of being slightly meanish.... ) Well, not me, but I know some really bad people, one of them morbidly obese, and in a moment of utmost honesty I told him that he may just turn into a vegetable in wheelchair, tongue hanging out (we call that the Q sign...), and wishing for a quick exit, but unfortunately, as we said, only the good die young. So I am considering sending him anonymous gifts of pepperoni pizza with extra cheese. , just to give fate a hand.
Well, sorry for the digression. Just that you know, I appreciate your straight forwardness and find the funny where you let it hang, and love it. Keep coming. Some of us are still alive apart from dieting.

[wileybosco]

I'm here-just recovering from a very busy week. Eating healthy and exercising often. Dealing with a heel issue from so much paddle tennis but tis the season to play outdoor tennis in freezing temps and I truly love it.
As for the people that used to be on here many have moved to another forum which is journal based and the same people post often and rarely are there new members. It's not for me but they will welcome you warmly if you want to join. I talk to Jams daily and he has become my diet partner in crime and Rox and Anne and some others I stalk and talk to through Facebook. They have helped me change my life and I am forever grateful. I think they know.
I think what brings me back here is new people starting the adventure. Watching their struggles and successes as they work through it all helps me continue this lifestyle. It acts like a mirror to my own experiences. I do not want to go back to where I was and so I read many but rarely post. I will try to post more often. Thanks for keeping my journal alive.

[jhderm]

I am glad you are doing well, Wiley, apart from the heel. It's good to see that people succeed and make it.
As to watching the struggles, well, it's funny. Some people are just able to make up their mind and rarely weer off. I am not that fortunate, and respond to outside pressures or frustrations by punishing or rewarding myself with (non SB) food- not sure if it's the former or the latter, but in the long run, it's the former, as I suffer from the loss of face in my own eyes. A smart person told me that I am so rebellious, I don't accept even my own rules, could well be true. However, I will have to get over that if I am ever to make it to my wt loss goal. When I was younger, it was easier, not sure why- more motivated to find a man? more interested in being as perfect as I could for my own standards?...but now, being the (single/divorced) mother of a lovely child, I guess the priorities are different. Anyway, my struggles are not so much with what is right or wrong with the food, is getting myself to believe that I can do it, that I have it in me to hang in there and hang long enough to get some place.
I will check out the other forum the vets went to, (Red gave me the link), but I just feel fortunate that I found some people on these boards that I feel have substance, and they keep me going and I owe them same as you feel about your friends. Without their egging me on, perhaps I would have given up on myself a while ago.
This maybe more than what you may have wanted to find out about a (relatively) new member and if so, I apologize. I just feel a certain kinship with you, perhaps bec you belong to a group of what seems to be bright people who largely left, perhaps bec you are a friend of Red whom I admire, who knows. So I will come back to see how you are doing and thanks for the feedback on that poem and for posting it on Laura's. I felt it wasn't my place, as I haven't known her, but her story and sad fate touched me, and I wanted to contribute something positive within the boundaries of possible.
Have a good weekend...NY is STILL freezing....

[wileybosco]

They really were a wonderful group of bright, funny people but all in different places in their journey.
Today has been hard. I am rarely grumpy but that is how I would describe myself. Cranky, moody and miserable is how my Dad would describe it. I am rarely feeling that way so for this typical optimist with the Pollyanna outlook it has been a downright stinky feeling day. Honestly there is no good reason except for the womanly kind and I hate that my body has this effect on me when I have no damn right to be down. Teaching went well, life is rich but I still feel a little blue.Food has been healthy and I think I just need a good nights sleep and a heel rub. My plantar is troubling since I play tennis on Mondays and Wednesdays and need rest time to heal in between but no time in the exercise plan. Took the night off of yoga and making it a pure rest day and hoping that helps. Wanted to go but can hardly walk without pain. Staying off the treadmill for a couple of days as well.
Food today:
yogurt/banana
apple
ww wrap w/tuna and lettuce/cheese
dried fruit/orange
Grilled Chicken/side salad /mixed veggies

[anneg1116]

Hello stranger.

We all have those frumpy, grumpy days now & then. Tomorrow is another day and I can already hear you & your sunshine-y outlook - so onward!!

Trying so hard to get my head in gear and for some reason the struggle is really getting to me. Can't seem to figure out why I just can't make things happen this time around - but the whole time you are sitting on my shoulder prodding me along and telling me to get my arse on the right path!

Hope all is well with you & all of your men!

[jhderm]

Hi Wiley,
Well, yes, we all have grumpy days. If fact, I can predict I am about to have the TOM by getting moody and grumpy. It is hormonal, but a nice warm bath makes it better. And it goes away by itself
Plantar pain is no fun. You may want to see a sports doc/physiatrist about it. Staying off it for a while and not stressing it, and NSAIDs like Motrin are good for it, as are soaks and massages (you can do it on your own, or even a footbath with those rubber knobs on the bottom).
Generally, you sound great, so keep up the good stuff and the optimistic perpectives. We can all use it when it gets cold, grey and yucky outside.
We are expecting a blizzard, no school in NYC tomorrow, and I will try to sleep in for a change!

[wileybosco]

Thanks Gals!
Anne-I got teary when I read your post on your journal. It is the hardest job carving out time for yourself when taking care of little ones and doing it all like you are is exhausting. All I can say is that when you are ready you will know and I will be here.
Have the heel wrapped and ready to teach two undergrad courses and play some paddle. Then I will be off for a week while I go and present at a conference in Phoenix. Give this heel time to heal.

[wileybosco]

Good Morning!
Yesterday's food:
yogurt/banana/fresh fruit for a snack-sl. pineapple and strawberries
Cobb salad w/grilled chicken and homemade blue cheese dressing
3 SF chocolates
Turkey Reuben w/ half of the bread removed(Dog ate that slice)
Tons to do today and hoping to squeeze in a power vinyasa class with a teacher I have never practiced with.

[RedRox]

yay on the trying someone new thingie! sometimes that doesn't work out so great but sometimes it really does!! hoping for the latter! stay open and no judgements!

[wileybosco]

Back from Phoenix. Indulged a bit on food and drink so back on track today. So nice to see bright blue sky and feel 75 degrees again. Came back to snow! Presentation and conference were great and indulged in a piece of Folk Art from the Heard Museum Gift Shop. A little pricey but a treasure to me. Taught two classes this morn and now home with the boyman who has been on school break all week. Hubby is gone for the weekend on his annual poker/ smoke cigars/drink too much beer retreat with his buddies. Tonight is a Dj'd yoga class to benefit Haiti-looking forward to getting back on my mat. Went to the gym at the Hyatt and used some of the equipment in the exercise room and practiced yoga but not the Kula or yoga community and heat that I am used to.

[RedRox]

Welcome back! Snowing here too! looks purty though! rare friday off so made a lunch time class with an old favorite instructor who I never get to practice with anymore. So good class teaching this morning and good class taking at lunch! Off to parent/teacher conferences at the high school in a few mins.! Glad the conference went well! DW took off to Palm Springs for a couple days last week for her birthday. Wasn't super warm, but nice enough apparently!

[wileybosco]

Happy Birthday to the wife, Rox!
Too dang busy of a day but boyman and hubby came on campus and ate a late lunch with me after teaching and a meeting. They got to see how we spoil these college kids with great food stations and choices. Boyman was up coughing all night and at the end of a cold so he stayed home from school today. Always seems to get sick on school breaks. Tomorrow is his 17th birthday-I cannot believe my baby is that old. (can't believe I am that old!!!!)
Heading out to paddle and it is snowing and in the 30s of course. Hoping the heel holds up and I do not have a set back. Feel like it is getting a little better from the stretching exercises I have been doing. Heated vinyasa yoga three days in a row and healthy eating after returning from Phoenix so feeling a little better about splurging there. As always working it!!!!