Mother's Day Cake Question

shegundala · Wed May 07, 2008 9:16 pm

Okay, so my last Phase One day is Friday (down 9.5 lbs with no exercise, so I'm pretty pleased so far). For Mother's Day, my mom wanted an ice cream red velvet cake. Of course.

My question is this: Will it screw me up too much to have a tiny sliver of the cake? I don't want the cravings to start up again since it took me two weeks to kick them, so I'm wondering how far back this tiny (and I mean TINY) piece will set me.

Any thoughts?

ladybugnessa · Wed May 07, 2008 9:29 pm

ok why is this so important to you?

it's a choice you will have to make

for me I would not have done it right after phase 1
and for where I am now I would not do it.

but there are clearly times along my 2 year journey that I've chosen to indulge in something I really truly loved.

Magna · Wed May 07, 2008 9:54 pm

I can't advise you one way or the other about whether you can/should have a little cake now. But if you do decide to have some, it would be better to have it just after a full meal.

shegundala · Wed May 07, 2008 10:39 pm

Yes, well unfortunately, Nessa, I didn't plan to start Phase One to coincide with Mother's Day. That's just an unfortunate confluence of events.

And it is an important occasion for my 80 year old mother in ill health, so it IS an important event for me.

I was just asking for input or other's experiences.

ladybugnessa · Wed May 07, 2008 10:42 pm

well see the question was rhetorical.....

when i'm going to indulge I ask MYSELF... WHY is this SUCH a special occasion and is it WORTH setting myself back possibly weeks for one indulgence that will taste good for how long????

so my experience is that I would NOT eat food to please anyone but myself

even if my own mother arose from the grave I would not eat something I did not want to eat JUST TO MAKE HER HAPPY.

the thing is, are you using 'make my 80 yr old mother in ill health happy' as an excuse to eat something you really want to eat. if so that's fine. If you really want to eat it, then eat it.

i personally would not.

Samjase · Wed May 07, 2008 11:13 pm

shegundala,

You should do exactly as you want to do. If it were me, and it was important to me as it is to you, I would pat myself on the back the next day for allowing myself that sliver of cake. And then I would pat myself again for getting right back on program.

Holidays and special occasions will come along every now and then. The problem is not whether to have what you want at that special occasion. The problem comes from feeling so guilty that you throw in the towel the next day.

Be practical and think of this as a lifestyle change and not a temporary diet.

Enjoy!

Samjase

Kimboroni · Thu May 08, 2008 12:18 am

The important thing about Mother's Day is to be with your mom... to spend time with your mom... not eat cake, right? That's part of the lifestyle change: realizing that holidays and events aren't about food, but about people.

DebbyC · Thu May 08, 2008 12:34 am

Kimboroni wrote: The important thing about Mother's Day is to be with your mom... to spend time with your mom... not eat cake, right? That's part of the lifestyle change: realizing that holidays and events aren't about food, but about people.

I think that's one of the hardest things to learn. We associate holidays, parties, family gatherings, work gatherings with food and/or alcohol and it is very hard to break that pattern.

I do better at work and with my immediate friends BUT I am going home to visit family for the first time in almost 3 years, except for a long weekend funeral visit last year. I will have one meal of my mom's chicken/dumplings [tho we may experiment with ww flour!] and I'll have a piece of her 3 day coconut cake. We've already talked about this and she knows how important it is for me to lose weight - so we'll also be taking some long walks and having lots of meals of mostly garden fresh veggies...I really hate being the only heavy one in the family....

JardinFaerie · Thu May 08, 2008 12:40 pm

shegundala - If you love that kind of cake and this is an important event, which it is, have a tiny, tiny piece. Be careful all day in preparation and get right back on the plan the next day. As someone else mentioned, this is a lifestyle and we have to figure out how to live with it. If it isn't a cake that you love and your Mom won't care if you eat it, don't bother with it.

Good luck and have a good time.

DebbyC - It sounds like you have a great plan for your visit home. It is nice that you have long walks planned, etc. I definately would have to have a bit of Mom's chicken and dumplings and the 3-day coconut cake. It sounds like it would be worth extra exercise and dieting. Have a great time.

BTW, what is 3-day coconut cake?

Spacechica · Thu May 08, 2008 1:36 pm

My approach to SB eating is that I'm not going to stress out over denying myself something that I REALLY want. If I do, I will end up stressing out over it and then finally overeating. So, if I want something badly, I will allow myself a tiny piece or usually I will just steal a bite of my kids' stuff. That usually takes care of it, and I don't feel deprived. Actually, after being on SB, most things just don't taste the same and I don't even want any more than that anyway.

Good luck!!

recipelover · Thu May 08, 2008 1:48 pm

I have a friend who does this with almost everything she eats. She never eats the entire portion that is put on her plate.

If if would make your mom feel special by having you join her in eating cake, then take your tiny tiny piece and just eat a small bite every now and then very slowly. Then leave some of it on the plate.

If you can't do that--don't make yourself feel that guilty about that tiny tiny piece. I have lost both of my parents and I would go back and have a small piece of cake with them anytime if I knew it would make them happy. Just turn around and don't let it sabatoge the rest of the day. I would go back on Phase 1 for a day or two if it were me. Just don't let it throw you into indulging for the rest of the day.

If your mom doesn't care if you eat the cake or not--then skip eating it. I am also sure just having you with her will make her happy too.

Samjase · Thu May 08, 2008 11:13 pm

Quote: I have lost both of my parents and I would go back and have a small piece of cake with them anytime if I knew it would make them happy.

Now that's the proper focus.

shegundala · Fri May 09, 2008 10:22 pm

While most of the replies are appreciated, I do understand the dynamic of eating to make someone happy - that's not the issue.

What I was trying to find out is if having one tiny piece of sugary cake after just completing P1 will spike my cravings for sugar? I don't want to end up back where I started with the cravings, so I want to know how much sugar is too much sugar that close to the end of P1.

I'm certainly not using this as an "excuse" to do what I "want to do anyway" - I'm more self-aware than that, thanks.

And I do agree with Samjase and the other poster who said that they would go back if they could to have a piece of cake with their folks - that's really the important part of the day.

ladybugnessa · Fri May 09, 2008 10:46 pm

shegundala wrote: While most of the replies are appreciated, I do understand the dynamic of eating to make someone happy - that's not the issue.

What I was trying to find out is if having one tiny piece of sugary cake after just completing P1 will spike my cravings for sugar? I don't want to end up back where I started with the cravings, so I want to know how much sugar is too much sugar that close to the end of P1.

I'm certainly not using this as an "excuse" to do what I "want to do anyway" - I'm more self-aware than that, thanks.

And I do agree with Samjase and the other poster who said that they would go back if they could to have a piece of cake with their folks - that's really the important part of the day.

everyone is an individual and none of us know if it will cause you to have cravings or not.

eat the cake and let us know how it works for you.


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