| AleciaBneedstobefreed
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I workout at the YMCA with my Mom. I wouldn't even got there if it wasn't for the nursery and my Mom going on a scholarship. She can't afford another gym that doesn't do scholarships.
I just don't feel like I want to go there anymore.
It's always too crowded for my liking also.
Well, Friday my Mom and I were talking on the ellipticals like we always do. There was this guy next to me that was acting really weird. He was wiping his machine over and over again while he was exercising and acting really agitated. I had never seen him before. I mentioned to Mom that I have been having problems with really bad nausea when I eat fatty foods to the point that I am miserable. I almost had to excuse myself from restaurants a few times but luckily the nausea subsided before I actually threw up.
This guy looks over and says " Oh, I really needed to hear that right now"
While I was really bothered by it my Mom just blew it off. Maybe I'm sensitive?
Then today my 2 year old slapped one of the workers on the arm for making her share toys with other kids her age. The nursery was packed full of toddlers today.
This is an offense that could get her kicked out of the nursery but the worker said it was more of a swipe instead of a hit. I think she thought she was older than she is because she wanted her to apologize but my daughter isn't old enough to talk. I think she was more disturbed by the fact that she didn't apologize though. My daughter was woke up early by a menacing older sister today too and was too tired to deal with life. Now I feel like a bad person or something. This stinks.
Does anyone have any advice? |
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Tue Jul 17, 2007 12:14 am |
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| nygirl22
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You are NOT a bad person! Maybe you are sensitive, but if you are, I am too b/c I think that would've bothered me. It was just rude IMO.
He's probably a weirdo anyways (lol). No one says he has to eavesdrop on your convos.
If going w/ your mom is motivation, then you're kind of in a sticky situation. On the one hand, I would suggest looking for a different gym, but I don't know due to the reasons you explained.
Also I would just say "sorry about that" about your daughter but also explain the reason she didn't apologize - b/c she can't talk. and tell her that you took care of it.
But overall... take a walk or run or something (that always relieves a lot of my stress)! :) :) |
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Tue Jul 17, 2007 12:48 am |
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| lorka150
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Give the guy the benefit of the doubt... Maybe he just got fired, had a flat tire, and spilt coffee on his new pants. Just like you were agitated with him, he was with your comment.
I would feel bad, too, about your daughter, but don't write off the gym... Think of it as mom-time and try to relax! You are being sensitive, but not overly sensitive. Just work out frustrations on the machines instead :) |
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Tue Jul 17, 2007 5:06 am |
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| A-Rod
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get some headphones? :lol:
seriously, that comment from the guy next to you was rude. it was unnecessary ... i don't see what he achieved by saying it, other than making someone else feel bad. lame.
i'd probably explain to the nursery staff there about your daughter's age if this type of incident comes up. i'm sure they get frustrated sometimes with so many kids to watch. i worked occasional shifts in the daycare at a gym i used to work at, and it's tough! not like a preschool environment where the children get to know the teachers and one another. i think they're all a little on edge being around a bunch of strangers.
just get in and get out - get done what you're there to do and don't SWEAT the rest. ;) |
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Tue Jul 17, 2007 10:27 pm |
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| toese
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Well .... first of all the guy should get some earphones if he doesn't want to hear people jabber. Some gym people do get annoyed by all the jabbering but if it bothers him then they really should get some earphones cuz there will always be jabber.
As for the nursery incident. I would have had my daughter apologize whether it was a look in her face knowing that she did something wrong. Just as long as the care attendant knew you gave an effort that you felt bad about what your daughter did. No one likes to be hit and I know that working in a nursery can be nerve wracking. (I'm an instructor at a gym) so I know how irritated people get.
Yes, you may be a little sensitive but quitting the gym isn't an answer. Just keep going and if something else goes wrong and it irritates someone just apologize and keep it light. They will get over it and so will you.
Hang in there!!! :D |
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Wed Jul 18, 2007 10:15 pm |
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| AleciaBneedstobefreed
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I'm not quitting. I was just having a bad few days. There is always different workers and the lady who brought up the issue always seems a little edgy and "by the book". It does have to be hard. I definitely gave my daughter the talk and have been extra vigilant about telling her to behave and not to hit before we go in. I will be so glad when she gets over the terrible twos, but I still don't want her to grow up. :lol:
I even gave her sisters the talk about setting a good example by not hitting. I think she's a little aggresive because she's the youngest of 3 girls. My other 2 were never aggressive like that.
I haven't seen that guy since. Thank goodness. If I did I would walk by and avoid a machine where he was at if I could. I love going to the gym and having"mom time" away from kids. My husband doesn't understand hy I go there when I could exercise for free elsewhere. Only a Mom (or stay at home Dad) could understand. |
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Thu Jul 19, 2007 11:06 pm |
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| toese
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| Oh do I ever understand. I love going to the gym too!!! Freeing your mind and just letting go w/ no interruptions is HEAVEN!!! |
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Fri Jul 20, 2007 1:51 am |
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| momof4rn
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I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. I agree with the others, don't write it off, get some headphones, and enjoy your mom time with your mom, and ignore those with bad manners.
As for your daughter, she is 2,(I have 4 kids, none of mine at 2 knew what I'm sorry meant or when to say it) explain that to the nursery, maybe start doing some "practice secenarios" at home, she will in time learn what to do when she is there. The youngest of my 3 daughters is also very different from the older 2.
Good luck!! |
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Tue Jul 24, 2007 4:59 pm |
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| salmonlady
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I sympathize with you re your daughter (been there, done that--no solution for the terrible twos), but people are right, don't let that keep you from going to the gym.
However, I must say I'm on the side of the man in this case. Yes, he was rude to comment, but my take on it is that it is really really stressful to be in such close contact with other people, dressed in next to nothing, expected to jiggle everything you have. This heightened stress makes me ultra sensitive to people who "invade my space", for example talking on a cellphone while doing the elliptical. Talk that I couldn't avoid hearing about other people's bodily functions might set me off, too, although I hope I would just leave and do something else rather than be rude to them.
Salmon |
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Tue Jul 24, 2007 6:55 pm |
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