| pookiebear
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I've been reading posts lately that talk about how no one can force you to lose weight/get healthy, but that it has to be a decision you make for yourself. I totally 100% agree with that.
So, if it's a decision that one makes on their own, and no amount of suggesting, forcing, coercing, or begging will help - why do people look to others for encouragement? :? If it's a decision we make on our own, without anyone's help, why do we feel we need the help, encouragement or approval of others?
I guess I never fully understood that - thoughts? |
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Fri Jun 01, 2007 10:51 pm |
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| A-Rod
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the decision has to come from us - but it's SUPPORT from others that helps us to keep going.
the compliments help when it's so hard to tell if you're actually making progress ... and the community here is so helpful when you need people on the same journey to commiserate with. it's easier to make good choices when you have people cheering you on, as opposed to people who criticize your healthy habits or give you a hard time for being disciplined, as if it'll spoil all your fun.
nobody can make you take the initial plunge here on the beach, but they CAN help you stay afloat. |
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Fri Jun 01, 2007 11:00 pm |
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| pookiebear
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So what if we didn't have this board...
What if we didn't have anyone to support us...
What if we had people that criticized us...
Once we've made the decision, are we still dependant on others to help us "make it"? |
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Fri Jun 01, 2007 11:49 pm |
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| A-Rod
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personally, i think that depends on the person. i think everyone who is here has come here for a reason - they enjoy the support offered by this forum. the people who don't need it are probably not here, but out there doin' it solo!
these changes are big ones, and they're tough to figure out and it takes a long time with lots of bumps in the road. for every step forward you take a few sideways and backwards and every which way! i think the failure rate would be much higher without a support group.
you've got the new folks, who might get confused and misled or discouraged in the face of the initial struggles when starting out on SB, who might drop out early without a helping hand ... that initial support helps you stick with it when you're struggling and don't know if you can do this big journey ...
then you've got the old folks who have been doing this for a long time and sometimes need their forum friends to give them a reality check or a pep-talk or an eye/ear to run ideas by or a good swift kick in the butt ... the continued support helps you keep going when it seems that the journey never ends and you'll never get it right after all this time ... |
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Sat Jun 02, 2007 12:10 am |
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| ladybugnessa
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i know for me what makes me stick to it SOMETIMES is knowing i have to come back here and report to folks who are NOW my friends... a year ago if I had not been self committed I would not have cared.
NOW I feel like I let the down as well as myself. |
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Sat Jun 02, 2007 1:21 am |
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| AleciaBneedstobefreed
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| I think it helps to hear from others that are going through or have gone through the same experiences. That in and of itself is encouraging. Just knowing you're not alone and this can be achieved as others have shown. I have never known anyone who lost weight and has kept it off for a long time until I came here. That is very encouraging for me to keep the light burning. |
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Wed Jun 13, 2007 3:55 am |
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