Ectopic Pregnancy

alisannemarie · Mon Apr 30, 2007 4:17 pm

On Thurday the 19th I went to the doctor for what I thought was a pulled muscle in my side from working out, long behold I was pregnant after having my tubes tied and cortirized 4 years ago. We just about fell over in shock. I was told the pain in my side was the 2" diameter cyst on my ovary from the pregnancy. We were told that I would be going into emergency surgery that day or Friday. They sent me to the hospital to have blood work done and an internal and external ultrasound done. My HCG level read at a 590 which but me at about 2-4 weeks pregnant. My Gyn didn't want to operate b/c the baby couldn't be detected in any of the ultrasounds (it was too early). He then said that we had a chance of having a normal uterine pregnancy. We never realized how much we wanted another baby until that moment. The possibililty of it made us "jump the gun" and we got our hopes up high. Then that Saturday we had to get another HCG reading done which would determine where the baby was located. They said if the level doubled it is a "normal" pregnancy if it only went up (or down) a few digits then it was in my fallopian tubes. My numbers were 557...they went down. I'm sure all you Moms out there can imagine how I was feeling at that moment. It hurt even more cus we had no choice in the matter....it was out of our hands. Next step was to see the specialist on Monday. I had another HCG readingand once again it went down to 505...a definite tubal pregnancy. The doctor didn't operate but injected me with 2 doses of Methotrexate. Needless to say it caused me some severe pain and alot of throwing up. So having to deal with physical and emotional pain has got me way off track. The doctor told us that our insurance wouldn't pay for the pricey surgery for me to have the tubal reversed adn even if we did my tubes were so scarred that we would only have a 40% chance of a "normal" pregnancy. The other option was to go to Massachusettes and have invetro which apparantley has the same chances and cost just as much and another procedure that our insurance doesnt cover. So now I have to use birth control on top of having my tubal cus Im at high risk of having another Ectopic pregnancy. I feel now that my life is one big daze. Can anyone relate to this or gone through this? Im wondering what choices you made in having another baby. I had only got my tubes tied then cus I was in a bad relationship that I knew was ending. My sweetheart and I don't have our own child together and now we reallly want it more than ever. I'm falling apart over this. :cry:

A-Rod · Tue May 01, 2007 11:17 pm

wow - what an ordeal you are going through. this must not be easy for you at all.

i don't have any medical advice to offer ... just friendly support. good luck getting through this, and i hope that taking some comfort in your healthy lifestyle habits will help you feel in control of SOMETHING.

have you considered adopting? there are a lot of children out there in the world who are living in terrible circumstances and would benefit very much from being given a better life. i know it may not be what you hope for if you have a desire for a biological child, but might bring great joy to your life if that isn't an option.

alisannemarie · Wed May 02, 2007 2:31 pm

ARod: We really haven't thought about adoption b/c we are still dealing with the shock of it all. We didnt realize how much we wanted a baby until this happened. I didn't really focus on the "beachy life" during all of it so Im going back to P1 for a few days just to re-coop. I do appreciate all your support. This forum has a great place for me not only as a "diet" reference but as some real inspiration and comfort. I thank you all.

scoers · Mon May 07, 2007 2:07 pm

God Bless your heart. I feel for you. I lost a baby 5 years ago. I can remember being very heart broken.I also remember how my head went realing. It seemed like a dream well nightmare and unreal. All I can say is that your in my prayers. You will get through this. It will just take time.
God Bless you.

alisannemarie · Mon May 07, 2007 2:34 pm

Thank you scoers. Today is the day that Im trying to get back into the Beach. Thanks again for your support and prayers.

Alison

Newday · Sun Jun 10, 2007 9:35 pm

I am so very sorry for your loss and all you have been through. If it were me, I'd seek another opinion, as I honestly cannot believe the advice you have been given by your doctor. Also, did he tell you the risks of methotrexate and future pregnancies? It is a chemotherapy agent and highly toxic. It might actually be very dangerous for you to try to conceive right now. You may have to wait a little while (I forget how long its in your system).I only say this to help you and sincerely hope it does not cause you anymore stress. *big hugs*.

If it were me I'd seek another doctor, find out more about methotrexate and future pregnancies, and than seriously look into a reversal. It is likely your insurance could cover some. If not, I've heard that some doctors can work with you to help reverse. There are some message boards and yahoo groups on reversals and they may be able to help you.

Hang in there. Know you and your family are in my prayers.

alisannemarie · Wed Jun 13, 2007 1:57 am

Thank you so much for your support and prayers. It has been very difficult. Just a quick update. As of Friday June 8,2007 I am officially no longer pregnant. It took from April until this past friday for this all to be taken care of. When we went to our OBGYN he was trying to convince me to go in and have my tubes taken out. I told him I would rather just be on birth control until we made a final decision. He said "YOu know you really don't have much of a chance in having a normal healthy pregnancy espcially with your insurance." Then he was trying to convince my finacee to have a vestictomy (dont know how to spell). He actually doesnt have any biological children so he was ready to swing at him. The Methotrexate was awful. I feel bad for anyone that who has to take that stuff for any reason. It caused me so much pain I thought I was in labor for weeks. My jerk of a doctor didnt' even give me a pain med until I called the OBGYN on call and she couldn't believe he didnt prescribe me anything.
This will always be something we will struggle to deal with. It tore at our emotions and made me feel lifeless....I had no choices in the situation.
If anyone else has been faced with this please email me I would love to hear how it was treated.
Thanks again for all of your support :o)

Newday · Wed Jun 13, 2007 4:22 am

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this and your doctor. Honestly, I think you need to find a new more compassionate and knowledgable ob or midwife. I personally prefer midwives, they are so gentle and compassionate and very natural minded. :( . *hugs* and prayers.


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