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Ok I know a lot of people will say "he won't do it till he's ready- don't push him". That's fine and I agree. But he has said that he wants to exercise. He comes home and by the time he gets changed and has a snack .... he could go then, but he's tired so he ends up checking email etc and then we eat and then it's not exactly appealing to go on a full stomach.
So...... any ideas? I am not working right now so I run and do weights during the day. I have in the past waited for him and said hey let's go for a run or come to the gym with me. Sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't. Of course if he doesn't I sometimes end up not going either, thereby missing my workout :? Also I don't want to be the nagging GF.
He does like to hike so we do that on the weekends sometimes. |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 2:25 pm |
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| OldGreyBob
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When you find out how to do it, announce it to the whole group. I have a DW of 38+ years who has claimed for years that she should exercise. I have made suggestions and been called pushy. I have given her gifts of special classes at the gym and then had to listen why they were stupid and wrong. I have had her join me in a class only to hear for the next 3 weeks how the class hurt her.
So what to do?
1) Keep her gym membership open.
2) Offer to supportive to any exercise she might choose, but not overly supportive.
3) Be the best role model, but be modest about it to her. Rest of the world look out, I might boast a bit!
4) Keep my mouth shut and hope for the best, after all it is her life.
PS Don't miss your workouts -- it is your life! |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 3:27 pm |
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| Cyster
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Yeah, what Bob said. :lol:
I'm a firm believer in morning exercise for the very reasons you listed. Evenings come and go too quickly. My DH is the same way. He (and I say this very lightly) exercises in the evenings too. (Cough, cough, sputter, sputter). He goes maybe once a month, if that. He intends to go, but never does. Things just come up.
It makes sense in my head that one should schedule exercise and that scheduling should take priority over everything else, but I guess everyone is wired differently. :wink: |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 3:32 pm |
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| skinnypeep
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Looks like nobody has actually had success at this :? Or at least they aren't sharing their secrets!!
Well I will keep making it easier for him to go out and exercise (providing plentiful snacks and dinner options, occasionally suggesting a run together. In fact maybe I'll try that tonight. I'll keep you posted as to Operation: "Get DBF off his butt" :wink: :lol: |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 8:03 pm |
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| PapaBanucci
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When my wife gets back from the gym (occassional exerciser that she is), I tell her she looks hot.
I try to be subversive in my techniques. |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 8:59 pm |
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| skinnypeep
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PapaBanucci wrote: When my wife gets back from the gym (occassional exerciser that she is), I tell her she looks hot.
I try to be subversive in my techniques.
NOW we're talkin! Come on people, I know you can be devious!! |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 9:13 pm |
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| bkro9
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| I have tried everything with hubby. He doesn't need to lose weight...YET being the operative word. And his dad has a mile long list of health probs. I'm with you on finding the cure! ;) |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 10:04 pm |
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| A-Rod
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skinnypeep wrote: PapaBanucci wrote: When my wife gets back from the gym (occassional exerciser that she is), I tell her she looks hot.
I try to be subversive in my techniques.
NOW we're talkin! Come on people, I know you can be devious!!
bribe him with sex? [extra workout!]
that's usually effective for just about anything ... |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 10:28 pm |
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| Dragonrose
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I will definitely sign up for the information when you figure out how to successfully encourage the significant other to exercise. My hubby knows he should exercise but he absolutely despises it and I can easily despise him when I manage to coerce him into doing so because he complains about it the entire time we are on the way to the gym, while we are there and then the entire way home. He will even complain when we just talk about going.
So I gave up even trying anymore. Yes I want to be supportive and help him lose weight and remain healthy, but you really can't force them to do it. For me I have to decide if listening to him complain about being fat and out of shape occasionally or complaining about exercising several times a week.
I don't go to the gym myself right now but I do exercise at home, often while he is there and he sometimes will watch me but has yet to join in. I figure he will eventually decide to do it, probably when my weight loss and more toned body becomes more noticeable. |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 11:00 pm |
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| maltby_gardner
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| I don't know what to tell you. I think I have finally shamed my DH into exercising. The roles are reversed for us, he used to be the one to exercise and I never did. But he hasn't been exercising regularly for at least a couple of years. I think he was afraid I might get in better shape than him. |
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Tue Apr 03, 2007 11:22 pm |
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| ECS
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One thing for me, and its important, is to get to the gym as soon as I leave work. I take my workout clothes and everything I need with me (or as far as my ipod/water bottle/lock/ect I just leave in the car). Once i get home I want to A. Snack like crazy and B. Relax and do nothing.
However, If I go straight to the gym I am always happy I went and then I come home and eat a good dinner. Its really the best of both worlds for me. |
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Wed Apr 04, 2007 12:39 am |
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| Lizard22
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| I wish I was the one with the answer but I'm not. DH and I equally loathe exercise... The difference is, I do it anyway, and he doesn't. I exercise because I'm insecure and want to look my best, and eventually look better. He is comfortable the way he is, and isn't concerned with his health. He could lose some of that beer belly, but until he starts to hate it the way I hate my lack of abs, he won't be motivated to get rid of it. But I don't want to make him feel insecure so he'll work out. |
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Wed Apr 04, 2007 3:52 am |
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| Nadia
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I have been trying to get my boyfriend to exercise as well. He doesn't need to lose weight as he is thin, but he has back and joint problems from being in a car accident years ago and I think regular exercise would benefit him. Getting him to do it is a whole other story.
Personally I find the best time to exercise is right when I come home from work. Fortunately I am a teacher and am home by 4:00. I find that if I plant myself at my computer for any length of time after work that I start feeling sluggish. Today it was a gorgeous day in the 70's and I am off on spring break. I took a really long walk. Almost an hour which is alot for me to do. But I felt so good about myself after that !! |
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Wed Apr 04, 2007 3:55 am |
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| pookiebear
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You're not nagging if he's shown a desire to go. You're helping him be accountable to someone and that's a good thing.
Here is my suggestion:
Let's say he leaves work at 4:30. Tell him to eat a snack at 3pm. And then, go STRAIGHT from work to the gym. If you aren't working right now, maybe you could pack his gym clothes for him? (In the beginning?) And then all he has to do is meet you for an appointment at the gym after work. :)
Oh, and this honestly didn't work for me. :lol: I'm still trying to get DH to exercise with me. He keeps expressing the desire to go, but we don't have a membership to the gym anymore. When DH gets less busy, he wants to do the elliptical at our house, which is fine.
In the meantime? We bought a Nintendo Wii. 8) It's a start. ;)
P.S. Maybe you could get him to realize the importance of it? My DH is finally realizing that.... I'll say, "Hi, how are you?" and he'll say, "*sigh* I'm tired............. I really need to start exercising."
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Wed Apr 04, 2007 1:48 pm |
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| skinnypeep
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Had to share this with you guys:
Last night, before dinner.
Me: So we're having steak, cauliflower, and corn
Him: wait, we're having 2 vegetables??? :shock:
Me: mmm hmmmm 8)
Him: Well, that's not right
Me: Well maybe if you worked out I wouldn't have to feed us extra vegetables.... :twisted:
(Please note the use of the MAYBE in that last line. He doesn't know yet that round 2 of veggies is here to stay. A little at a time and the subject will not notice he is being trained......)
Mwahahahahahahahaha. I feel such POWER. |
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