| zynr
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Quote: i don't get why the concept of bisexuality doesn't make sense ... people are attracted to other PEOPLE, physically and emotionally and mentally. attraction isn't that black and white. you may be attracted to one sex or the other exclusively, but there are lines that are blurred even if they're not so for you individually.
it's not like, "if you experience attraction to someone of your same sex, you are automatically and exclusively homosexual and can't have heterosexual attractions." WTF. A-Rod makes a very good point. Because of my lifestyle, I have been in sexual situations with women, but have never been in a long term relationship with a woman, although the idea isn't totally out of the question, because the attraction is definitely there. My daughter, on the other hand, although "bi", has been in a few long term, serious relationships with women, and still keeps in touch a few of them. But she put it much like A-Rod did. She doesn't like labels. She said something like: "Mom, it isn't about what you are, but who you are attracted to." My experience with her and our discussions, or just her occasional comment, is that she seems to me more attracted to lesbian women in general, but I know one of her long time relationships was with a bi-sexual woman. And she too, by the way, eats the SB way.
All that said... welcome to the SB forum, and the SB WOE! |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 3:26 pm |
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| Zosia
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Hi - Big fan of the L word here. My partner and I have been together 5 years - she's currently doing Weight Watchers and me on SB. She has 5 lbs to go to reach goal - I'm looking at 15. She of course atrated at a better weight than I didbut remember its a WOE and not a race. But I take a little perverted pleasure when she loses 1/2 lb or gains and I lose 2.
Nothing like weight loss togetherness to keep us together. |
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Wed Apr 11, 2007 9:36 pm |
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| koolgyrl1978
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Proud Lesbian here :)
Nice to see I'm not the only one on here...
Live with my partner of 3 yrs, who at times makes following the SBD WOE a challenge cause she likes to eat like an unsupervised 7 yr old kid with all the candy she eats and keeps in the house! However, we came to the agreement she would try to limit the junk she keeps in the house and will not bring things in I tell her are too much temptation. So far I haven't raided her junk stash...it's been almost 4 months so that's good. I also must be a good influence cause she is slowly making changes over to SBD friendly foods and seems to have a better understanding why I am eating the way I am. |
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Thu Apr 12, 2007 2:25 pm |
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| berkeleybabe
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Wow, glad to have stumbled upon "the family" (and friends) here!
I personally prefer the label "dyke" to lesbian, but that's just me. I have a partner as well who is very supportive of my beachiness. Also, she is soooo not a cook and is more or less just thrilled to have someone put food in front of her every night.
Living in the SF bay area with So many (visible) queer people, it really is amazing, the amount of bi-hatred in the lesbian community. I mean, there is such a big difference between bi-CURIOUS and bi-SEXUAL. But anyway.....
Good to meet you all! |
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Thu Apr 26, 2007 6:23 am |
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| <3.Nikki.<3
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I am Bisexual, though I tried to suppress it for years because for some reason it made me feel guilty. I have always my entire life though, felt attracted to girls as I have been boys. Finally in my later teens (16-ish?) I was just like, oh sod it I might as well just accept this. I told a close friend and turned out she was Bi too! Almost all of my friends were cool with it, none of them really fit the description of what I liked in women and never felt uncomfortable, really I was happy that "nothing changed". I have had quite a few encounters with women, though I've never sought to use them in any way. I know what it feels like to be used and would never do that to someone.
I've only been in long relationships with men but I think it's because for the most part I am very very emotional.. and me being with another emotional person is out of the question. Women tend to be more emotional.. there's nothing wrong with that of course but it's not good for me in a love/sexual relationship. My boyfriend is my rock and it would take a girl of equal emotional stability (which is to stay REALLY stable) to really make me feel comfortable in a relationship.
I do think that people can be bisexual and be attracted more towards one gender as their "relationship attraction" gender. Sexual attraction does not always translate well to a healthy relationship. I am happy in my current relationship, it just happens to be a hetero one! |
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Thu Apr 26, 2007 1:02 pm |
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| berkeleybabe
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Hi Nikki! Great perspective....it's good that you seem to really know yourself. I kind of have the opposite experience...I am ONLY emotionally attracted to/connected with women (or, should i say, female bodied people, I usually love the butchies who don't really identify as "women" in the way that I do)....but I am physically attracted to biological males as well. It's always interesting to be a NON-man-hating-lesbian.
I love how complicated and diverse people and their identities are! I just with that there wasn't so much hatred toward people who are just trying to live their lives! |
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Thu Apr 26, 2007 4:51 pm |
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| dgurba
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Well, well, well....
I have been talking to a few of you for awhile now and this is a pleasant discovery. :o
I too am bi-sexual.
When I finally told my family (just this past November) their first reaction was to believe that Dh and I were having MAD threesomes all over the place. I promptly told them this was an incorrect assumption.
For me, being bi-sexual means I just don't have a preference. I would/could be with either/or. I just don't put any limitations on who I have feelings for.
It has nothing to do with being CONFUSED. :roll:
It really is nice to meet others like myself. :D |
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Sun May 06, 2007 10:23 pm |
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