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I am so greatful to have been given the gifts of fellowship and program...Many people struggle needlessly for years and years with untreated addictions. My eyes were first open in 1986 when I found ACOA meetings and then in 1987 when OA found me. I worked a strong program for a while and then I took my will back and lost my way~I survived in relapse (COEing for years and years)...Somewhere along the way I realized that surviving sucked and I decided that I wanted to live with PASSION & HARMONY...Thank you God it is never too late to make a U-TURN!!
"These addictions are so powerful that there is not a chance in the world that anyone can do it alone". --THIS IS SOOOOOOOO TRUE, WHILE IT IS MY RECOVERY...I CAN'T KEEP IT UNLESS I GIVE IT AWAY!!!
"It is when try to make my will conform with God's that I begin to use it rightly". Bill W. For Today: To know what God would have me do is my first priority, for that knowledge smooths my path and frees me to live with energy and love. :P |
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Sun Mar 11, 2007 11:10 pm |
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Welcome to the BEACH...and on a "program" note...Welcome to LIFE...
I love and owe my life to program...Both OA & ACOA meetings...
Finding and surrendering to the SB WOEing has really helped me...It provides me a solid food plan that I can live with ODAT.
Hope that you keep in touch...May this 24 hours provide you with peace and joy to fill your soul...
Prayers for Peace,
Nicol |
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Sun Mar 11, 2007 11:26 pm |
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| I am an ACOA (both parents). In the little town that I live in there is only AA. No other support groups are available for addictions. I once enquired about an ACOA group and they said if I started one and ran it then there would be one. That just sent me running in the other direction. I have read a few self help books on it and basically have learned ALOT about myself from these books. It totally fascinated me that I was so affected by my parents alcoholism even though I was put in foster care at age 9 and didnt think I was at all affected! Major changes have occured in my life since starting down the self discovery road! |
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Mon Mar 12, 2007 5:32 am |
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That is so sad that you can't get to any meetings. You know, you could go to a few AA meetings.....get a look at it from the other side. Your parents didn't do this to you intentionally. They had no control over their disease. Have you looked in your 'phone book for AA, Al-Anon or Alateen? They might have some information to help you find ACOA. Also, if you have the meetings there, go to an Alanon meeting. They are far smarter than the AA people, and could direct you. Good luck. Maybe one of the other women that come into this thread could direct you, too. I recall that a lot of the ACOA's went to Al-Anon, too
Peace, Rose |
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Mon Mar 12, 2007 1:37 pm |
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Yea...It sure is sad, that there are not many meeting where you live...True fact ACOA meetings are hard to come by~while they are for sure needed by many many folks.
My dad was alcoholic and my mom rage-aholic. My brother and his girlfriend were killed by a druck driver in 1973 when I was 8 years old and they were 17 & 18. My whole life changed on that day. I was able to cope with my father and my mother's reaction to his drinking...It was all I knew...But after Jimmy & Sarah were killed~EVERYTHING in my world changed!!! My home went from comfortable-chaos to cold-silence in what felt like one single heart beat. In hind'sight I realized I never learned how to live~I learned how to survive. My romps first with pills, then with unhealthy relationships, and then pills, unhealthy relationships and food all at the same time led me to program and then most recently to SB.
I needed to find a safe place and it was for sure not alone in my own head...in my own company I am in bad company...I hope to continue to live, love and learn today...
I look forward to leaning more about everyone who visits here while learning about myself in the process...
Welcome & Prayers for Peace,
Nicol
PS IF there are no ACOA meetings in your area there are wonderful ACOA meetings online and Al-Anon is also a great opportunity to network. I got a lot of messed up messages as a child and until I challenged what did not make sense..my brain believed all the echos in my head!!!!
PSS I hope that you love the BEACH as much as I do...It is not a FIX~It is part of the mind, body & spirit package!!! |
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Mon Mar 12, 2007 8:41 pm |
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| there are ACOA meetings online? HOW COOL! I have to go surfin now! I have to admit that I thankfully never got into the drug scene as a teenager (never tried ANY of it in fact) but I most certainly had a very unhealthy relationship. But I divorced him and my significant other now is the most wonderfullest, most supportive man going. He is totally what I was looking for but couldnt find with the ex! And yes I do love the beach as much as you do. My family (extended) is probably starting to get sick of all the "beachy" talk I do! |
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Tue Mar 13, 2007 6:18 am |
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Good morning...Oh how lovely it is here on the beach!!! ~LOL~ It is so nice outdoors this morning that I almost hate to go to work...How wonderful it is that you NEVER touched other drugs and was healthy enough to realize that man number one was not the one and you and had the courage and the strength to let him go and find the one that raised up your soul up...I had many unhealthy relationships...Yet, today and for the last 9 years I have been with my soulmate...It is not always easy...but it is so where I know where I am ment to be...I am very blessed!!!
I have to be quick...I need to get my lunch packed and geton the road...If your family does not wanna hear all the beachy talk...Oh well...Right? Right!!! :roll:
Have a great day... :D
Prayers for Peace,
Nicol
PS here is a link online ACOA meetings
http://www.12stepforums.net/acoa.html |
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Tue Mar 13, 2007 12:31 pm |
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Good afternoon, everyone. It is slaughter on Wall St. today. I couldn't come onto the Forums for even two minutes ! The housing bubble finally crashed.....hard. No soft landings. I feel so sorry for all the poor people who wanted a house, The American Dream, right? And those banks that made up underhanded, illegal loans to these people, who have now lost everything.. So now the bamks are stuck with all these houses that nobody can live in. Well, when the prices fall still farther, I'm sure the investment vultures will be snapping them up, once again pushing the poor back to the slums. This reminds me of a certain Charles Dickens book ....I can't remember which
Thank you so much for that link to ACOA. I'm going to start going to meetings again, now that I can walk. I am getting outside now, awaiting the miracle of rebirth. I love the earth with a passion. Did I mention I have a degree in Agriculture?
Peace! Rose
Also... You can't keep it unless yo0u give it away..... hadn't even thought about that since my car accident. Oh, you know how when you stop trying for something and put it in the past, you get it out of nowhere? I had a lawsuit going against that Insurance Company that I thought had expired. Last week, out of the blue, they sent me a letter saying they were going to settle with me. :shock: :D :D |
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Tue Mar 13, 2007 8:58 pm |
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Hi all~... I don't know a lot about Wall St. or too much about the housing bubble...Yet, anytime people hurt I feel sad...I hope that some how some what things work out for them...I will keep the victims and the purps in my prayers...
I hope that everyone finds what they are looking for via the ACOA link that I shared...It is a good link~it is chock full of great information...
Rose...I am glad to hear that you are feeling better and are able to get outdoors again and are looking towards going back to meeetings...I also love all that is nature and the outdoors...I was raised in the country and somedays I feel really cooped up in our "compartment"...But we do get outside a lot on the weekends!!! Can't wait to get to P-town!!! Late Apirl or May or at very latest this summer!!!! Yea re your lawsuit...I'm sure God had it all figured out and you being patient..just decreased your stress and helped your healing process...
Today I feel very much at peace...I know that when My heels touch the earth, I am healing my wounds...I can't wait to get out there and start exploring natures gifts this spring!!!
Prayers for Peace,
Nicol |
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Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:33 pm |
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I had a great really good day today. Still walking..... I went to see an orthopedic doctor today. He noted my walking. He put me through my usual paces, poked and prodded, then went to lift my left leg up to my knee. I said , Hold on. I don't think that's such a good idea. He nodded, asked me to do the same with the other leg, seemed satisfied. He then said' "Well, if it's not broken, I'm not going to try to fix it!' I gave him a queer look, and thought, does he know program, or is he just an earth person? It's everywhere if you know what to look for.
Yes, It's just another example of God working in your life. I had let that insurance case go. I wasn't even angry about it. I truly had put it in my past and let it go. I figured God didn't want me to have it. His will, not mine. Life is so much easier that way. It reminds me of Christ's sermon on the mount, about the lillies of the field. They don't worry, or fret. God will take care of them. How much more important to him are we?
Peace, Rose
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Thu Mar 15, 2007 12:41 am |
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Great & really good days are awesome!!!! And walking even makes things better...I am so happy for you Rose!!! :D Is it not awesome that your doctor listened to you and even had some awesome words of wisdom for ya...Re: "If it aint' broke" Ya never know were "WE" are... "WE" are doctors, lawyers, moms, dads, clerks...
God so seems to be working in your life...He is amazing and how cool is it That, He does not need our help...No need to worry about ANYTHING!!!
Peace,
Nicol
PS "Living is a form of not being sure, not knowing what next or how. The moment you know how, you begin to die a little. The artist never entirely knows. We guess. We may be wrong, but we take leap after leap in the dark." --Agnes de Mille
PSS TODAY, I TAKE LEAPS OF FAITH IN GOD'S LIGHT... |
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Thu Mar 15, 2007 7:43 pm |
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Wow, Nicole, that quote was Truth, a beautiful thing to behold. I looked at that for a long while, thinking. The thing is, that being truth, you can't alter it., you can't add to it or take anything away from it. It's like a light to guide us on our paths. I'm going to copy that and put it up in the kitchen......no, in my office. My office was formerly a den that I converted into a garden room, then added a greenhouse. I am often reminded of that poem that ends... God doth love a garden, better than anywhere else on earth.
Yeah, that doctor just about knocked the pee right out of me! On top of it, he gave me a presciption with 3 whole refills..... he never does that. Maybe he is one of us...... true, you never know. He does seem awfully unhappy. Maybe I'll give him some of my flowers for his office. I had tulips and daffodils in some nice pots in the refridgerator all winter. They are coming up now. Poor guy.
Well! We are doing such fine things with our lives... is it not great indeed? I went shopping after the market closed today. I went into some gourmet shops and bought some fruit I have never eaten before....star fruit? I think I'll come visit you later on. I have to clean the kitchen, doing core exercises at the same time. You can lose inches easily with those. Ever try them?
Amazing grace. Peace, Rose |
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Thu Mar 15, 2007 11:26 pm |
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Wow, Nicole, that quote was Truth, a beautiful thing to behold. I looked at that for a long while, thinking. The thing is, that being truth, you can't alter it., you can't add to it or take anything away from it. It's like a light to guide us on our paths. I'm going to copy that and put it up in the kitchen......no, in my office. My office was formerly a den that I converted into a garden room, then added a greenhouse. I am often reminded of that poem that ends... God doth love a garden, better than anywhere else on earth.
Yeah, that doctor just about knocked the pee right out of me! On top of it, he gave me a presciption with 3 whole refills..... he never does that. Maybe he is one of us...... true, you never know. He does seem awfully unhappy. Maybe I'll give him some of my flowers for his office. I had tulips and daffodils in some nice pots in the refridgerator all winter. They are coming up now. Poor guy.
Well! We are doing such fine things with our lives... is it not great indeed? I went shopping after the market closed today. I went into some gourmet shops and bought some fruit I have never eaten before....star fruit? I think I'll come visit you later on. I have to clean the kitchen, doing core exercises at the same time. You can lose inches easily with those. Ever try them?
Amazing grace. Peace, Rose |
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Thu Mar 15, 2007 11:29 pm |
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I had a good day today. I ate well, I exercised, and I pondered the beauty of Gods wonderful creations. It snowed all day. :shock: My Vinca Vines, a plant I have been tracking for the past five years, died. We had one day of 11below zero. Next day the plants were dead. They had been green up to this point. I'll bet the roots are deep enough now that they will send up new shoots pretty soon. So I didn't go out in the snow. The Norway Spruce outside one window was heavily laden with snow. So beautiful. How could God have ever thought of all the colors, the plants, the animals, the snowflakes, each of which is different. Amazing.
My husband called from Washington DC, earlier. He will be stuck in the snow, unable to fly to Bradly International Airport until tomorrow morning, or maybe catch a flight in the wee hours. He was as amazed as I was to come home to a wife who was WALKING last weekend. We talked about going to Fatima in Portugal . Lourdes, too. It's not far away from Fatima. I would love to have my hands healed.
Praise to God for these programs! The love in those rooms is overwhelming. Everyone there has BEEN THERE. We KNOW what each other has been through, although the stories are different from person to person. There are stories that are so sad, yet the speaker always comes up with a joke about it and we all laugh. Tears and laughter, all rolled up together in each person's story.
Peace, Rose |
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Sat Mar 17, 2007 2:03 am |
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Hi Rose...Sounds like you have quiete a few days...Sorry about your one plant...I'm sure though, as you said, the roots are deep enough to allow it to come back...Maybe it is just resting... 8)
What does Starfruit taste like? Kiwi is my guess...Question: Do you work the market from home or do you go into NYC? I'm sort of blonde (with a stripe at the moment) so excuse me, if you already shared that with me...
It is very refreshing for me, to find someone online who truly loves God and program and is more than greatful for all of HIS gifts...Since I opened both my heart and my mind to God's plan for me~I have taken nothing but fresh air into my lungs...Have you checked out online ACOA meetings yet? I am sure that you will love them...As far as core exersise...I have not yet focused on strictly core exersises, yet I am planning to get back on my elliptical real soon...which works the core, arms, legs...EVERYTHING!!!
Hope that your hubby gets home safe and sound and soon...As far as your doctor...I think it would be so nice for you to share flowers with him from your garden...It might just bright'en his day...We live in an apartment...I grew up in a house with a big yard and my father was all about his garden and our lawn and all that is outdoors...I am a total mix of my parents...both good and bad...and I would not change a thing...
Well, I should get back to my laundry..."Talk" with ya later...
Peace,
Nicol
PS "As a COE, it is far easier for me to abstain from overindulgence in food than to try to become a "normal" binger". THE BEACH KEEPS THE CRAVINGS AWAY...IF I BINGE, IT IS BECAUSE I TAKE MY WILL BACK...TODAY, I AM INVESTED IN TRUSTING GOD, AND AMENDING MY IMMATURE PATTERS OF THINKING AND BEHAVING THAT DO NOT SUPPORT MY RECOVERY PROCESS. |
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