| patalina
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I've been with this guy for about 2 months, but I really feel that I love him. I've never felt this way around a guy and well...I'm scared that if I tell him I love him I'll scare him off, should I tell him?
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Tue Jul 18, 2006 6:20 am |
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| journeytomiracle
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If you love him, then do it.
I knew I loved my DH early on in our relationship...
He finally told me and I immediately said it back to him.
He said he was scared to tell me because he did not want to scare me off... so he waited and waited.
If it feels right then just do it! |
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Tue Jul 18, 2006 3:53 pm |
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| anneg1116
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| My gut reaction - if you have to ask, then no. When you know it's right to say it you will, and won't have to ask a single soul. You'll just know. |
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Tue Jul 18, 2006 3:56 pm |
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| ladybugnessa
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| i'm with Anne. while you may feel it, if you need to ask strangers (or anyone else for that matter) if you should say it, then you probably should not. |
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Tue Jul 18, 2006 4:18 pm |
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| patalina
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| i know what you mean about having to ask, i've been in other relationships (last one was 3.5 years long) and i've loved others but it's slightly different with him and i've almost slipped and said the L-word almost every time i see him. Thanks for the help... |
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Tue Jul 18, 2006 7:10 pm |
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| Sachinda
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I think this really depends on how far you two have progressed in two months. I knew my DH was "the one" well within two months, but I did have lots of long term relationships before him that lasted for years where we also said "I love you" with DH our love transcends any level that I thought was even possible- something I couldn't even fathom before meeting him. I accidentally blurted it out to him and he instantly said it back. But then we didn't say to each other again for a while after that, it's like we were both scared...
Anyway, my point is, if you blurt it out, that's fine. But I don't really think you should make a huge deal about saying it. By saying it accidentally, it shows that it was said with pure emotion whereas a calculated "I love you" sounds more serious- that might scare him.
Getting back to where I started to go in the beginning of my post (you don't have to answer these here, just think about them) have you guys had serious discussions about your future- together or not- where both of you discuss where you hope to be, what you aspire to? Do you each talk about your childhood, families and upbringing? I notice that these are topics that people seriously looking to build a future inevitable talk about, whether or not they're even consciously thinking about marriage, kids or whatever. |
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Tue Jul 18, 2006 8:13 pm |
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| crk05
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| Well, it's not such an easy question to answer because every relationship is a bit different, and the "right" time to say I love you varies from couple to couple. I was the first in my relationship (with my husband) to say "I love you" and it was fairly early in our relationship. It was the right moment and I just felt it and meant it. I hadn't thought about saying it in advance. The time was right. I think it's one of those things that should come naturally. You can't necessarily plan for it. Good luck! |
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Wed Jul 19, 2006 12:40 am |
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| Rareflowers
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Hmm....I would wait until it dawns on him that HE loves YOU. I used to act as though he was special. I would be cheerful around him, go to stupid baseball games with him, go fishing when I'd be dying to go shopping. You might even learn about his favorite things and be surprised that you like them too.
My ace in the hole was when I went over to his apartment, cleaned it, filled the rooms with flowers, and then went home. That did it. He realized that he really wanted to be with me a lot!
(We still did a lot of fishing. I grew to like it a lot, and would always go with him.)
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Wed Jul 19, 2006 11:24 pm |
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