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I've been on SBD for 12 weeks. I love it. I've dropped 22 lbs and I can't believe how much better I feel and how much size I've lost!!
HOWEVER!!!
I saw two different and independent groups of friends in the last couple weeks. None of them know I've been on SBD, and I didn't mention it. The last time I saw these groups of people, I weighed 205. I'm now 183. That's a significant difference!!
But despite the fact that I'm much smaller than I used to be... NOBODY FREAKING NOTICED!!! NOBODY SAID A WORD!!! Not a single, "Have you lost weight?" or even a "You're looking good."
I know I'm smaller. My pants tell me. My blouses tell me. My husband, in consolation, said, "Well, they didn't hug you, and I can tell you that when I hug you, it's VERY obvious you are thinner."
I'm not letting this bother me a whole lot because I feel so much better and I love putting on my jeans every morning knowing I'm not straining and waiting for them to "relax" so I can breathe.
But I was hoping my smaller body would be more obvious to spectators. I guess I have to drop another 10 or so before people say something. It's a bit disheartening tho, since I look at pictures of myself before and I was HUUUUGE!! I know 183 isn't skinny, but hey, IT'S NOT NEARLY AS TUBBY AS I WAS!!!
When do the compliments come? |
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Wed Apr 07, 2004 10:08 pm |
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| darknature
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| Knowing YOU lost the weight should be your only Compliment needed. Also your feeling good should be the factor, nobody else's comments should matter. |
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Wed Apr 07, 2004 10:12 pm |
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| hhnurse
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It is nice for others to notice any improvements/changes(BTW- congratulations!) I have lost 21 pounds in 11 weeks. I can tell a big difference in my clothing, as well as how I feel. I have had friends at work
comment on my loss, but my family seems to hardly notice. I just tell myself
that I'm doing this for my health, the weight loss is just a nice bonus.
Continue to keep your chin up! Others will soon take notice of the new you. |
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Wed Apr 07, 2004 10:23 pm |
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| Mags7461
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Ezaldere,
First of all, congrats on your loss! That's fantastic!
For me, it took 30 lbs for someone to notice. But I really think it was because I finally broke down and bought some smaller clothes. Before that, I was still hiding in my big baggy shirts and pants and it just wasn't noticeable. Have you tried wearing something that shows off the new you?? Try it!
Mags |
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Wed Apr 07, 2004 10:40 pm |
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| jros1x
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It's odd, but sometimes I know people who won't say something, because they don't want you to think that they thought you were "fat" before. I'm sure they notice, just may not want you to feel bad about how you looked before.
Just my opinion. |
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Wed Apr 07, 2004 10:48 pm |
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| squeeze
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| Keep up the great work. I rember losing a significant weight before and noone noticed until I bought new clothes. you can also look on the flip side maybe they didn't notice when you gained 22 lbs. At any rate others care less about your weight than we think. Buy a new outfit and you will be pleasantly suprised when people notice. Congratulation! |
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Wed Apr 07, 2004 10:49 pm |
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| I have had ONE colleague at work mention (in a whisper, mind you) that she can tell I am losing weight. I have lost 34.5 lbs as of my last weighing. Someone asked me out loud how much I had lost about a week ago and another colleague literally lit into me about it--very uncomplimentary about the whole thing. Since then, it is whispers. |
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Thu Apr 08, 2004 2:23 am |
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| ezaldere
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You know, I never thought about it that way... but you may be right: They don't wanna say, "Hey, have you lost weight," because they might think I'd be offended if I thought they thought I was fat before.
... but damm... I KNOW I was fat... shesh.. how could you MISS IT!?!?
Anyway, it's true I haven't bought anything smaller. I was a little too large for size 16 before, and I just bought a bunch of pants and shirts (size 16 pants, XL shirts). Dumb. I should have gone a size smaller. I have always been one who prefers not to have things tight on me...I wore L shirts when I should have been wearing M, at 150. I think it makes a more fitting sillhouette when you don't have smiles and creases.
But now that I read all your posts, I took a look at my jeans. I'm really swimming in them. They are baggy in the ass and legs... if you can believe it. My JEANS ARE BAGGY!!!!!!
MY JEANS ARE BAGGY, MY JEANS ARE BAGGY, THANK GAWD ALMIGHTY MY JEANS ARE BAGGY!!!!!
Okay, maybe a few more blouses, then. |
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Thu Apr 08, 2004 3:33 am |
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| Len
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| Congrats on your weight loss--I am also disappointed that no one has said anything to me, either. I have only lost 10, but am down a size. I asked my close friend if it showed and she told me that she never thought I looked heavy in the first place, since I hid it well with the way I dressed. Also, if you are wearing the same clothes and they fit better, no one can see your new body. The most important thing is, do you feel better? Do you feel like you look better? Are you getting through the day in the jeans that used to be uncomfortable by 1:00? You are doing this for YOU. You are doing great, keep it up, eventually, EVERYONE will be commenting! |
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Fri Apr 09, 2004 12:46 pm |
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| babs
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| I agree some people are just uncomfortable saying something...like they don't want to hurt your feelings that they noticed you were overweight to begin with. I just found out that a few friends have said something about my weight loss to my husband (but not to me)....so people DO notice, but just don't make any comment until there is a completely dramatic change. I admit I felt good that my hubby told me what these friends said about me looking good. Everyone likes to hear it. |
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Fri Apr 09, 2004 1:07 pm |
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| Lesterbird
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Yeah, I know what you mean. I'm down 20lbs and a size and a half and only one person has said anything. Her remark was "You look great," and it was wonderful to hear because she didn't know I was dieting. Others who do know (big difference) have said nice things but they don't count since they KNOW I'm SBing.
I am soooo waiting to hear some unsolicited praise but that's probably an emotional issue for me - maybe others too. I'm trying to learn to be happy w/myself for the sake of myself and not for others' opinions of me. Where's Dr. Phil when you need him? |
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Fri Apr 09, 2004 6:37 pm |
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| Theflyingturtle
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I have trouble realizing myself.....but others have said things to me. I have been at it for 8 weeks (though I had surgery this past week and had a bit of a diversion, some ice cream, a dougnut, pizza skins sans bacon (uno's) and no exercise :( ) --i miss the gym SOO MUCH!
Anyway at the start of this a 14 strech jean/16 regular (gap) was pushing it for me. The other day I swear I tried on every pair of pants the gap owned in size 10, 8, and 6. I ended up with a 6 strech (though after the surgery break they may be a bit snug) anyway It is wierd for me to accept that I can go into a store and buy a 6 or an 8. I feel like I still look the same as I did 7 weeks ago. I also have trouble noticing when those I see daily lose weight (I always say I have bad space/size relations problems--like if you gave me a sack of beans and asked if they'd fit in a bowl i'd have no clue!)
anyway, I was taking to a co-worker and he was like so and so lost a lot of weight, but I didn't want to say anything cause it's wierd to talk to girls about those things, and I don't want her to think I thought she was fat before, meanwhile, my boss told me that he said something to her about how I lost weight too. (That may be a bit confusing) |
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