| Ally
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Hi! I am 18 and 5'7 and currently about 138 pounds. I am thinking of starting the SBD because I have been in recovery from an eating disorder for about 6 months now and part of the recovery was putting back on the weight that I had lost-- unfortunately I gained back more! :( My goal weight is 125 which is what I weighed before that mess. Does anyone else identify with my situation or have any recommendations/ suggestions?? Thanks!
-Kathryn |
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Fri Aug 13, 2004 3:20 am |
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| daisyjk
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Hi,
I have been in recovery almost a year and have started the SBD too because like you I gained back too much. I only need to lose a bit but find it hard and think that the SBD is the way to do it!!
It is just very important to make sure not to let it get out of hand and get back into an eating disorder. Just stay focused and it should be ok. Daisyjk |
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Fri Aug 13, 2004 6:35 pm |
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| snow
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hi :D
i have been in recovery for almost 5 years (end october).
just wanted to wish you guys all the best, it can be a hard place to be.
take care! |
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Sat Aug 14, 2004 7:29 pm |
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| Baily
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Hi Ladies,
I'm 31 now but, from the age of 14-18 I was bulimic. I went for therapy after 3 years of bulimia and my therapist told me that for the rest of my life dieting will be my worst enemy. The only way to prevent myself from getting sick again or grossly overweight is to stop dieting altogether. Wow, I did not want to hear that. Over the years I have kept her advice in mind and she's been right on the mark. Have you ever heard of the saying, "Dieting means you haven't died yet."
Obviously, not dieting goes against everything the world dictates so it appears like an impossibility to avoid dieting altogether. It appears to me that the best way to go is to follow a regimen such as sbd where you stay away from refined carbs that cause you to overeat and mess up your hunger signals. Learning to appreciate and savor fruit, vegetables and the powerfully satisfying proteins that the South Beach Diet promotes is a wonderful way to make friends with food. To tell yourself that you'll never ever eat ice cream/chocolate or whatever is yummy again is the kiss of death for any recovering anorexic/bulimic. What I've had to learn over the years is to be nice to myself and enjoy life to it's fullest. I hope I helped someone out there. Be well and be kind to yourself. |
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Mon Aug 23, 2004 6:41 pm |
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| pbutter
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I am 29 now and struggled with anorexia from the time I was 15 to 18. Not that long, and I never went to therapy. I was able to keep my parents satisfied enough to stay away from that. Maybe that's why I am battling the mind games still to this day.
But I agree with the previous poster that SBD is a great way to go, eating healthy and staying away from the refined carbs. This will give you the energy you need and you will stay full longer.
Good luck with your recovery. With God you can do all things! |
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Tue Aug 24, 2004 1:03 am |
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| kategail
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| I have always struggled with my weight. After the birth of my now 3 1/2 year old i joined The Diet Center and reached my goal of 125. I regained to 140, so in June i started SB. I am now at 134. I am a recovering compulsive binge eater. You know the type of person who thinks about food all the time, sneaks to eat, and will sit down and eat a whole jar of peanut butter in 3 minutes. I have not had a full blown binge in about 4 months, but i have what i call mini binges about every weekend. I do fine on sb during the week since i am on a schedule with work and everything, but on the weekend i have a lot of free time and tend to overeat. I don't overeat on sweets of anything, mostly on cheeses and nuts. We do not keep sweets in our house. Except for the apple pie my husband had me buy last weekend. It stares at me everytime I open the fridge, but I know that if i take one nibble it will start the almost unstoppable cycle. I teeter between 132 and 136 now. I would love to hear from any others with this disorder. |
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Fri Sep 03, 2004 3:06 pm |
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| Missy10
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Hi everyone,
Kategail, I am in the same boat that you are. I have struggled with bulimia in the past (when I was 19-26, currently 29), and find myself binge eating now and then. I, unlike you, will eat anything, including sweets, which really throws me off. I am 5'5 and weigh 130. I really want to get down to 125, and when temptations come I keep telling myself that I can get through them by engaging in some activity with my children or by leaving the house. I also have (and kind of still do) suffer from poor body image. I think for me my body image relates greatly to the scale. I have often thought that at 125 I think I will look great. I am really starting to like how I currently look (that is a huge step for me because I always hated the way I looked no matter what the scale had to say). A huge part of my higher self esteem has to do with where I am currently in my life...I have two beautiful children (2 1/2 and 9 months), a wonderful husband (four years) and a great extended family. This change in "attitude" has come in part beacuse the last two years have been emotional draining for my family. I have endured many health problems (not due to the ED) and so has my little girl. We are now both very healthy. I guess it took some terrible things to get my mind and "attitude" on the right track. I know the only way for me is up the positive side of the road. Good luck to you and hopefully we can connect again soon. |
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Sun Sep 05, 2004 3:35 pm |
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| Baily
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Hi Missy,
Thank you for sharing your story. I really do believe that having a husband and children do help when it comes to your personal perception of yourself. My children love me unconditionally. When they hug me, I know they think I'm beautiful, so I hug them a lot and I really feel like the most beautiful woman on earth.
Be well!
Baily |
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Sun Sep 05, 2004 5:25 pm |
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| shhhush
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Yep, I've been struggling with bulimia since I was 14, and all nutritionists and psychologists have told me not to diet. But, I am also slightly overweight, due to my emotional overeating, and no normal amount of exercise is making a dent.
I have also recently graduated from college, and no longer have the insurance coverage or college counselors to help me overcome this horrible habit. I have found a 2 years research study that offers regular treatment for bulimics (at Johns Hopkins, if any of you live near there), as well as a decent particpant compensation payment, but you have to be within a healthy weight range to qualify. I am so close! And I am determined to quit this habit once and for all.
I chose South beach because it is supposed to help us control our food cravings, and its done just that for me. I also follow the book's meal plan, which makes me feel like I'm pampering myself with gourmet meals. I don't feel deprived at all, and am feeling fabulous after only 4 days. Let's just hope it stays this way.
To be honest, the outline of this "diet" is similar to the healthy eating habits constantly laid out for me by nutritionists: 3 snacks a day, healthy meals, eat til you're full and try not to let yourself be hungry. So don't think of it as a diet at all. What I'm trying to focus on is the way I feel, not how much I weigh. The better I feel, the less likely I am to binge, and the less likely I am to throw up, etc. I'll keep you posted on my progess, and good luck to y'all. |
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Fri Sep 10, 2004 5:25 pm |
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| NURSE BETTY
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what a comfort to find women talking so openly, thank you!
I was bulimic/anorexic for years at 23yo I was down to just under 100#, at 5'5 that was just unhealthy. As if realizing my worst nightmare the nutritionist diet of weightgain never stoped. Eventually I was diagnosed with a hypothyroid and polycystic ovarian syndrome. 75#'s and seven years later fighting the urge to purge is a daily battle!
I can however end on a positive note and tell you that after consulting with an endocronoligist who really personifies what a doctor should be I have found south beach. After just one week my insaitable appetite and 6 pounds are gone!
Not saying it's easy but I feel like I'm on the right track.
my genuine hope for each of you is to find balance. please keep someone in your life that you are TRUELY honest with about your weight, habits, and feelings! The most important thing I learned from all of this is that no matter what size or shape we are in we are valuble! |
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Mon Sep 20, 2004 4:22 am |
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| PeanutButta
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Right here.
Heavy all through my teen years... then I lost weight eating 1,000 calories a day. Everyone was so impressed... I went from around 165 to 130 in about 6 months, and at 5"3" it showed up. Every day, I'd have:
Breakfast: 1 packet of instant plain oatmeal with 1 tsp brown sugar.
Lunch: Subway Veggie sub (cheese, no mayo, all the veggies) bag of baked chips and a diet pepsi
snack: 1 chocolate chip chewy granola bar
dinner: 1 slim fast bar
Every. Single. Day.
Then my relationship started to fall apart, and i got more desperate than I already was... I started working out more (running 6 miles a day on 1150 calories), eating slim fast bars and lean cuisines... I lost hair... I was freezing all the time.. unconcious by 9:30 everynight. Dead to the world.
My boyfriend and I broke up a year ago, and I went on an eating rampage. I think I ate continuously from september 11 2003 to december 25. When we really "really" broke up (on christmas day... how sad is that) I never wanted to eat again... I was 10 lbs heavier... felt disgusting. turned to my number one comfort food... cheerios. I think for a week solid, I ate nothing but dry cheerios and scambled eggs. and diet pepsi. I lived off diet pepsi.
I decided that I was going to turn it around... and had a blow out binge on new years eve.. then started following dr. phil's diet plan.. which really isn't a diet at all... plus, I really like dr. phil. he's the kind of man I'd really like to have as a father figure in my life.... I did really well on that for about 5 months... even made it throgh a disneyland trip which is usually a gorge fest. Then the ex came home... I got my wisdom teeth out.. and eating habits have been precarious since.
I eat really well all week, and then on the weekends, I flop big time. I binged today like a fiend. I feel like a failure when I do this, and I di it about 3 times a month. I have myself... feeling sick... blech....
I'm trying... but, yeah.... it's tough, y'know? |
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Mon Sep 20, 2004 5:04 am |
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| Jin
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i'm a recovered anorexic. it all started seven years ago. i was 5'3" and i remember the day i hit the 110lbs mark. i freaked out. my mother is a tiny woman of 4'11" at 95lbs and my sister is also very slim. i felt so inferior to the both of them, and i remember my sister peering over my shoulder at the scale and spazzing out with me. we were both very young teenagers then. from that point on, i made it a very serious goal to lose weight.
at the time, i just wanted to lose the 10lbs i had gained over summer vacation. i ate nothing all morning, a fat-free yogurt for lunch, and a bowl of frosted mini-wheats for dinner. i did this for about 3 months. i was very strict on myself and made sure that i exercised everyday. i would run atleast 3 miles daily, and when the weather was too bad to go outside, i would jumprope 3,000 times and do crunches like a lunatic until i couldn't do anymore.
needless to say, my weight dropped drastically. at first everyone was ecstatic for me. i was so determined and so efficient at what i had set out to do. i felt like i could control everything. after dropping to 100, i felt that a little more wouldn't hurt. little did i know that the longer i kept doing this to myself, the harder it would be to see the reality of the situation. everyone all around me, at school, at family gatherings, teachers, they would all try to feed me or talk to me. but i didn't want to hear any of it.
at a weight of 75lbs, i was suffering from hair loss and feeling chilled most of the time, and severe shaking at night. it was at this point that i passed out in school and was rushed to the hospital. it was a long and very trying road to recovery. but i did indeed fully recover. i accepted myself and viewed food differently. and i have maintained a healthy weight ever since.
the present is a little bit different from the rest of my life. i met the love of my life a little over two years ago. and oh my, does he love to feed me! our dates somehow always lead to food, and i've found myself very slowly plumping up. of course my boyfriend has a very fast metabolism and is looking as great as ever, while i am turning into a little porkball. so i have turned to south beach diet, and i am loving it.
thank you for sharing your stories, and goodluck to you all! |
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Wed Sep 22, 2004 4:56 am |
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| kategail
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| I have read several books by Geneen Roth. One in particular "When Food Is Love". She shares her personal struggles with food addictions and how she overcame them. You can go to your local library and check them out. She also has some posts on Prevention.Com. I pray that each of you that struggle with any type of eating disorder will overcome the stronghold that it can have on you. I take it one day at a time, and each day it does get a little easier. Good luck to you all! You are inspiring and encouraging to me. There is some comfort I get in knowing I am not the only one that deals with this. |
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Fri Oct 01, 2004 1:45 am |
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Hey!
As *trying* to overcome my eating disorder (bulimic), which I have struggled with the last 6 years (starting 18, now I am 24), I have some hopes in the SBD. I have come so far that I for the latest two years REALLY want to be able to call myself a recovered bulimic, instead of just a bulimic (well, I don't usually go around calling myself that, there's less people than fingers on my one hand that knows. Or, actually, there's just as many people as fingers I use to... You know..) Well, from black humor to serious chatting:
Because I have come so 'far' as to 1) realize I have to get out, and 2) WANT to get out, I just have to find the thing that actually can make me do it.
I am hoping for the SBD, because of rules, but not to strict ones - my problem is not heavy overweight, but the goal of becoming with peace with my foodintakes. Regulation, rythm and guidelines.
(Yes, all eating disorders are truly about 'control' they say, but thats just after the intake - before and during, I have no control at all!) :roll:
So, after this long post - - anyone struggling with the same, maybe we could follow each other up (or in downs...)?
You may if so feel very free to PM me 8)
Greets,
J. |
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Mon Nov 01, 2004 2:47 am |
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| dj_chick
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I wouldn't say I've had an eating disorder, but my entire life has been a struggle with weight. On my first diet around 7 or 8 years old...oh, I had a stint for a couple of weeks when I was about 5 that just refused to eat anything at all. When I was in high school, I started dance classes that I would go to a couple of times a week, started playing soccer (where the warm up was a mile run), and I just a gym membership. So I would skip breakfast, have a coke and chalupa for lunch, no snack, have whatever mom was making for dinner. On top of 1 1/2 dance class a day, soccer practice for 2 hours, and I would usually go to the gym for 2-3 hours a night.
I was finally thin...and when I looked in the mirror I saw a cow. I can look back at pics and see now what I didn't see then. But now I think about what I did to get to that point. I was tired all the time. I was hungry all the time. It wasn't fun.
SB is helping me to learn how to eat healthy, and thats what I really needed. :wink: |
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Thu Nov 04, 2004 6:16 pm |
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