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Hi all,
I've heard it said that the first year of marriage is the hardest! :wink: I've been married for 8 months now and have gained 10-15 lbs. Is it common to gain weight the first year of marriage? I probably go to the gym/exercise more now than I have before! I want to stay skinny for myself and for my husband! Has anyone else experienced this too? |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 3:42 am |
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| Magicpuddle
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Oh yes. That was my story. We drank so much wine, and went out to eat SO much, that it was impossible NOT to gain weight. It's just now after kids that I am getting my stuff together.
Congrats to you for working on it! :) and enjoy the rest of the honeymoon ;) :lol: |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 4:06 am |
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| pookiebear
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Hehe, thank you. 8) See, I could understand if the extra weight gain was due to the fact that we drink a lot (which he never does and I barely do) or eating out a lot (which I love to cook at home!). So, I still don't understand what my problem is.... although I guess it doesn't matter now - because I'm changing the way I eat! Thank you for your reply!
-P.B. |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 2:28 pm |
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| Guest
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| Honey, its totally normal. You get comfortable with who you are and who you're with. I weighed 115 when I got married, a year later.. 135! ahhh! |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 2:31 pm |
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| Guest
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| Its very easy in that first year to tack it on my husband put on 20 pounds and I noticed I started to put it on too 5 or 6 lbs (I was already carrying an extra 15-20lbs). So I figured I better do something now so I didn't end up HUGE by the end of the year (married 5 mos now) |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 2:35 pm |
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| pookiebear
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| Well, I guess I'm not alone then! And I'm also not alone trying to keep it off! :o When I got married... I was around 120. Now I'm about 132. I always told myself if I EVER get to be over 130 (unless I was pregnant), I'm doing something about it! So... here we are :lol: |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 2:43 pm |
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| Kris10
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How's 5 years and 60 pounds?! :shock: And two kids, but that's no better an excuse.
For me it was doing my best to feed my husband the way his mother did...which was really, really, really bad. I am only starting to realize it. I now look like I belong more to his family than my own!
Example: Christmas dinner; four adults, two very small children. Here's what desert looked like: kitchen table full of sugar cookies, macadamia cookies, chocolate cookies, whoopie pies, a "black and white cake" enough to feed 20 people, rum cake, peanuts, candie peanuts, caramel chews, chocolate covered peanuts with heath bar, pastries, and many others I am blanking on. That is normal fare for that family. I wonder why both his parents are diabetic. Hmmmmm
No more, not for my family thank you! Oh, and every time my two and three year old go over there, they get chocolate milk! Not to mention all the other treats not allowed at our house. |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 2:58 pm |
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| kristen
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| I call it my "happy weight". I was always like this. I'd be skinny when I was single and when I settled into a relationship, I started gaining. It was no different when I got married. I gained 15 pounds in my first year of marriage and have kept it on for 3 years! I equate it with being happy and content- going out or cooking big meals, baking desserts... When I was single and living alone, I hardly ate because it was too much of a "hassle" to cook for one. I ate cereal for dinner all the time, never had snacks in the house, empty fridge. When I'm happy I enjoy food more and stack on the pounds:) Now I'm just trying to remove those annoying 15 pounds that have stayed on my tummy and hips for 3 years! |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 3:38 pm |
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| Viper
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| I'm glad we are all able to give each other support. I weighed 104 when I met my hubby. We married 6 yrs later and I was 112. 19 years later I'm 160. So it happens. And they are so sweet with the I love you just the way you are. BUT I don't love me the way I am, and I'm sensing the rest of us don't either. So together we can do this!! rah rah. giggle |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 3:46 pm |
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| pookiebear
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HA! My husband won't say, "I love you just the way you are." If I didn't address the issue myself and do something about it - he'd say, "Um, you need to lose some weight!" hehehehe And you know what? I respect him for being honest with me. He hasn't said anything like that because I've decided to do something about it - and I'll attain my weight goal - and he'll tell me I look good! :lol: 8)
Kristen - that's a good way to describe it - happy weight. :D I think I'll be happier when it's gone though! :lol:
Thanks for all your help everyone! |
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Wed Jan 14, 2004 4:57 pm |
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| lalalaville
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| interesting :lol: :lol: :lol: |
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Sat Mar 25, 2006 1:58 am |
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| Aria32
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as someone that has been married 12 years I know all about the after marriage weight gain. I actually weigh about 40lbs less than I did before I got married. People are right about the getting comfortable with each other and start packing on a bit of weight. At our highest the Dh got up to almost 300 and I was a plump 260 (I was 195 when we got married, but as my mother puts it.. I wear it well BAH). This was about 4 or 5 years ago. I wish I would have done something sooner, but sometimes things get overlooked when you are first married.
Good luck,
Ari |
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Sat Mar 25, 2006 5:35 am |
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| Ph.D. 2 B
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| Not married myself but was talking to a friend who is and she totally knows the feeling. She herself was several pounds underweight so the 16 she put on brings her to a healthy weight new hubby put on 20 or so. She thinks it because when they were dating they were more carefull about how much they spent on the date (she because she wasn't paying he because he was and he was a college student) after marriage when the incomes were combined there was more money. They don't eat out as much but found because they cooked at home they ate more because there was more to eat. Which makes sense if you go out to eat your limited by what's on the plate at home nobody sees you mound it up and go for thirds. Not saying you do that but you maybe eating more now then you did when you were dating. |
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Sat Mar 25, 2006 6:31 am |
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| sundance
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| Very normal, especially if you're happy! :) |
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Sat Mar 25, 2006 2:45 pm |
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| elizabeth702
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| Oh yeah... the first year... and then the 2nd and 3rd too. The 4th year (last year) is when I started to do something about it. It's amazing how comfortable you get with your spouse. I used to feel fat if I ate more than half of what was on my plate :roll: Once we were married, all modesty died. |
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Sat Mar 25, 2006 3:48 pm |
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